Category: Letters to a Small Church Pastor

  • Letter #37 (Talents)

    Dear Small Church Pastor,

        (This one is a spiritual exercise as much as it is a letter.)

         Another indicator in determining your priorities is where you invest your talents (skills, abilities, God-given spiritual gifts).  You haven’t just learned knowledge that you can utilize.  You also have innate, natural abilities that come to you from your genetic makeup.  And the Holy Spirit has gifted you with one or more spiritual gifts as described in the New Testament letters.  All these combine to create a long list of talents you possess.

         Here are the questions you know are coming—How are you using your talents?  Where do you invest your knowledge and skills?  Have you shared your spiritual gifts with others to their benefit?

         Take a quick inventory.  What skills do you possess?  What specialized knowledge?  What spiritual gifts?

         Well, what are they?  I challenge you to make a list of what your talents are.  Go ahead.  Make an honest list.  Take a few minutes and write them down.

         Now that you have the list, what talents would you like to add to the list?  Write those down, too.

         How many of these talents are being used to bring glory to Jesus?  How many of them are strengthening the body of Christ?  How many of them are “the better gifts” that are designed to encourage and build up other disciples?

         At this point, it would be good for you to talk to the Holy Spirit and ask to be given the gifts He has available for you because scripture says He will give them out according to His will and His choice.  Then ask Him to help you develop any new gift He decides to give you and any new skill/knowledge He opens the door for you to acquire.

         Look at that list!  You are talented!  You have skills!  You have knowledge!  You have spiritual gifts!

         Use your talents to benefit the Kingdom of God.  If you are using some of them for other reasons than benefitting God’s Kingdom, ask yourself what those reasons are.  Then pray about the reasons that may not be helping others to get closer to God.  Ask the Holy Spirit for guidance if you believe you need to redirect some of your talents.  Ask God to show you how to use your talents best for your own growth, for our family’s future and for the advancement of the body of Christ.

         Remember, you will invest your talents into your priorities.

    Sincerely,

    A Small Church Pastor

  • Letter #36 (Time)

    Dear Small Church Pastor,

         In the last letter, which covered the topic of Priorities, I dealt with looking at how we invest our time as one of the indicators of what we consider priorities.  Allow me to continue approaching this topic of time and how we use it for a few minutes, with emphasis on one use of time.

         We all know we only have twenty-four hours in a day.  Part of that day must be invested in resting and part of it in eating and taking care of personal physical needs.  The big question about time is, “How do we spend the rest of our time daily?”

         We are exchanging our time for something; that’s why we say we are “spending time” doing that something.  Well, what should we be doing, as compared with what we actually do?  As pastors, how can we most efficiently use our time to fulfill our God-given call and to utilize our God-given talents?

         We usually attempt to block out time for things like visits to congregational members, counseling, Bible study, sermon preparations, administrative duties, and a host of other responsibilities that go along with the written or perceived ministry of being a pastor.  However, I sometimes wonder if there is an aspect of being a pastor that we overlook and simply do not put near the top of the list.  That something is time spent in prayer.

         While conducting a School of Christ International missions training at a Christian campground my wife and I used to manage, Bro. Bert Clendennen had a standing rule for each day of the training.  The prospective missionaries/ministers were required to meet before breakfast daily at a set time and pray for an hour.  The first day one of the ministers attending was about ten minutes late for prayer.  He was reminded of the beginning time.       

         The second day that same individual was late again.  Bro. Clendennen pulled him aside and indicated to him that he needed to pack his things and return home.  Then that wise man of God told the late one that if he could not control himself enough to get up on time and pray for at least an hour before the day started while here in the states where there was no real pressure on him, he would never succeed in the field, because there he would need to pray for a much longer time daily in order to serve in complete dedication and submission to God just to be able to stay alive, depending on the country in which he would serve.

         I’m reminded of how the original apostles had the large group of disciples choose out seven men to take care of the feeding ministry during the beginning days of the church.  They said that would enable them to devote their time to prayer and the ministry of the word.  I often wonder if that would work today.  What if disciples in whom trust could be placed took care of the physical needs of a congregation and the pastors devoted themselves prayer and talking about Jesus?

         My question is this–How much time do we pray daily?  If the answer is a hour, is that enough time?  If the answer is two hours, is that enough time?  

         How much is enough will probably depend on your schedule for the day.  It may depend on how much you expect to be fighting opposition to the teaching of the word in your town.  There are many other things that can influence how much time we spend in prayer.  But the bottom line is, are we praying in proportion to how much we are ministering?  Those original apostles decided to devote themselves to prayer and the word.  I imagine that involved a great deal more prayer than is talked about today.

         I read an article on prayer years ago that made an impression on me.  The writer (whose name I cannot remember for this letter) told his secretary to hold all his calls for two hours because he felt that day deserved at least that much time in prayer before continuing.  She looked at his schedule and saw he had one appointment for counselling that day.  One appointment.

         We know we are admonished in scriptures to pray constantly, in all things, with faith, through the powerful name of Jesus and His authority.  We know Jesus set aside time to pray, sometimes all night.  We know we are to pray with understanding and in the Spirit.  We know prayer matters and that it gets results, and those results can be miraculous. 

         Knowing all these things, we still procrastinate when it comes to the actual activity of praying.  When it comes to time, is prayer a priority for us?

         I challenge you to look at your daily schedule and see if you can determine just how much prayer time you are putting in for the Kingdom of God.  Then ask yourself if you think it is enough.  Perhaps we all can do better in how much time we invest in our prayer life.  I know I can.

    Sincerely,

    A Small Church Pastor

  • Letter #35 (Priorities)

    Dear Small Church Pastor,

         Matthew 6:21 and Luke 12:34 both state, “Where your treasure is, there will be your heart also”.  It can also be said that you invest your time and your talents in those things that are important to you.  In other words, you will put your time, skills and money into those areas of life that you consider important enough to require your focus and devotion.  These areas can be referred to as your priorities.

         I don’t watch much television, but I recently happened to see part of a football game that was televised from a large outdoor stadium.  It was snowing and, based on the clothing people were wearing, quite cold.  According to an article from the New York Times from September 5, 2025, the average cost of a ticket to attend such a game is $279. 

         The typical pro game lasts about 3 hours.  That does not include driving time to and from the game or any side trips for meals or the famous tailgating parties.  Attending the game would essentially take the better part of a day and would, all incidental expenditures considered, involve a hefty empty space in each attendee’s wallet.

         Based on the money and time investments, I would venture to say that attending that game was a priority for the people sitting on those snow-covered bleachers. 

         Humor me and allow another example from a situation closer to home, so to speak.  A young couple we know came to worship complaining about not having enough money to repair their malfunctioning HVAC unit.  They talked about how their month seemed to always be more than their paychecks.  I knew the husband had a very nice newer truck, and the wife had her own vehicle, both with payments.  Then the wife said two statements that shed some light on their financial situation.  She first commented that they were going to be short on finances the whole season and did not know where they would get the money to pay all their bills.  Secondly, she revealed they would soon take a trip to a theme park that would cost them over $1,000 for a weekend stay at the park.  She had unintentionally revealed their priorities.

         Please do not misunderstand me.  There is nothing wrong with attending a sporting event or going to a theme park.  I have participated in similar activities.  However, I do understand we all will rationalize our “priorities” from time to time to make ourselves feel good about our expenditures of time, skills and money.  I’ve done that, and I dare think you may have, too.

         Here’s the rub with this priority topic—when we set our priorities, what do we use to establish a standard for setting those priorities?  Where do we draw the line on using our talents?  How much is too much to spend for something not already budgeted?  What is “wasting time” as opposed to “using time wisely?”

         Our priorities will determine the paths we take in life.  When we realize this fact, we should determine if our priorities are lined up with God’s will for our lives.  We must ask ourselves if our priorities demonstrate that we are living according to God’s call to minister to others for His kingdom’s sake.  We must take a serious look at those things we consider to be most important and determine if they coincide with what God says should be most important.

         Serious stuff, right?  Absolutely!  So, where do we turn to find out what God wants us to establish as our priorities?  You know the answers—scriptures and prayer.  But how often do we not go to those sources when we promote things in our lives into the position of being priorities?  How often do we do what we want, instead of seeking God’s guidance on how important something should be in our lives?

         Please do not take this letter as a personal condemnation.  It is a challenge.  Allow me to challenge you to sit down with whatever you use to take notes and begin to list where you spend your money, how you use your skills or talents and where you invest your time.  These three indicators will show you what you consider a priority.  Once you have done the identifying, then prayerfully go to scripture and seek God’s guidance on what you need to keep on the list and what you can reduce or eliminate from the list.  Remember, your priorities will motivate you and influence what you do, where you expend your energies, and how you invest your resources.  Just be sure your priorities agree with what God wants you to consider important.

    Sincerely,

    A Small Church Pastor

  • Letter #34 (Personal Study)

    Dear Small Church Pastor,

         You probably have taught or preached from 2 Timothy 2:15, that verse in which Paul admonishes Timothy to study scripture so he could confidently instruct others about their meaning.  You may have done special scripture studies with your people for years, even decades.  There’s a possibility you hold one or more Bible studies weekly with those same people.

         I have some questions for you—in all those years of preparing for Bible study with your people, how has your personal Bible study progressed?  Do you even have time set aside each day in which you are not preparing sermons or group studies?  Are you studying the scriptures for your own knowledge, your own confidence, your own understanding?

         Let’s face the reality that our responsibilities as a pastor can interfere with our own personal Bible study.  Knowing we have to be prepared to preach and teach from the pulpit/platform regularly causes us to focus on that one responsibility while neglecting our own growth sometimes.  We want to be prepared with the right message at our main worship service.  We want to make sure our people are being taught sound doctrine regularly.  Therefore, we invest a great deal of time in the preparation needed for fulfilling those responsibilities.  Sometimes, however, that great deal of time uses up so much of our time that we do not study for our own growth.

         I know the Holy Spirit teaches us and preaches to us as we prepare for the sake of others.  And that does help us grow as pastors and teachers.  But that residual learning should inspire us to conduct deeper studies into God’s word for our own sake, not just theirs.

         When was the last time you preached a message and did further personal study on the main idea of that message?  How long has it been since you read through the Bible highlighting passages that seemed to jump off the page while you read?  Have you ever realized you needed to learn more about what God says on a particular topic because that topic is directly related to your own life?  Do you even have a daily devotional time when you ready, study and meditate on God’s word?

         I’m usually awake way before sunrise.  I discovered people don’t call you that early unless there is a serious emergency to be addressed.  That means there is ample time to do Bible reading and study.  One of my Bible apps sends a daily verse that is accompanied by a brief devotion.  Another one sends a passage with a longer, more detailed devotion.  I get a short spiritual reminder from someone I met while working on an intensive Christian weekend a couple of years ago. 

         I read them all, noting their main emphasis and how it applies to my own life.  And I admit I have thought about how they connect to me and prayed after reading them as the Holy Spirit pricked my heart about something.  I need these devotions.  I need these scriptures.  I need this time alone with God for my own growth.  I have learned that when I grow personally, I’m a better disciple of Christ.  And that makes me a better husband, father, grandfather and pastor.

         You may not be awake as early as I am.  But you have just as many hours in a day as I do, and you can carve out some time for personal Bible reading and study.  Your sermon and lesson preparations are good and useful, but they do not always focus on your own life, needs, joys and trials.  I encourage you to establish a personal regular Bible study time if you don’t have one already.  Don’t put this aspect of your spiritual growth off until tomorrow.  Start today.

    Sincerely,

    A Small Church Pastor

  • Letter #33 (Take a Break)

    Dear Small Church Pastor,

         We tell our people not to over-do-it.  We tell them to pace themselves.  We tell them there are only twenty-four hours in a day.  We tell them they need to take a break for mental, emotional, physical and spiritual health.  But do we ever take a break ourselves?

         When was the last time you turned off your phone, sat down on your front porch or in the back yard and did nothing except enjoy God and His nature?  Think about this for a moment—how many times have you seen people sitting in those nice rocking chairs on front porches near where you live?  What about the gazebos in the yards—do you see people relaxing in them on any kind of regular basis?  Pastors are apparently not the only ones who need to stop to take a break regularly.

         I broach this topic out of personal destructive experience from my own ministry.  There were times when I was working so much, talking so much, researching so much and attempting to fulfill all those expectations that exist for people in ministry so much that I never really rested.  Oh, I took an occasional nap, but genuine, stop-everything rest, simply did not occur.

         I don’t know that I can determine the exact day and time that I fully understood the significance of the term “Sabbath.”  I can’t tell you which message I prepared that led me to internalize the importance of rest.  I don’t remember which guest speaker at a ministerial meeting caught my attention about resting.  I just know the Holy Spirit was able to finally impress on me that when God said, “Remember the Sabbath to keep it holy,” He meant it.

         Remember that Jesus told the pharisees that the Sabbath was made for man, not the other way around.  Jesus purposely healed on the Sabbath just to indicate that He was Lord of the Sabbath, as well as any other day.  He also pointed out that David took sacred bread to feed his companions and the priests work making sacrifices in the temple on the Sabbath.  I believe He did that to point out that all the rules and requirements that had been established by traditional teaching had burdened people into not being able to function properly on the day of rest.  In addition to this, Jesus attempted to get the disciples away from the crowds and ministering more than once in order for them to get away for some rest.

         I had to come to grips with the concept that those in ministry, the pastors and spiritual leaders among us, need rest just like everyone else needs it.  I had to finally decide to take a break, not just take a nap.  And that break needed to occur on a regular, weekly basis.  It had to be a “day off” from ministry.

         I understand the pressure of being on-call 24/7.  But I also understand what burn out is.  I also grasp that a tired—no–an exhausted pastor is an ineffective pastor.  A drained pastor, someone who has given and given until there is little left to give, will make mistakes, will not notice spiritual ailments in his flock, will not be as alert and on the defense and offense as is needed to maintain growth in his flock.

         Some pastors I know who have reached the same realization about rest take a day during the week to focus on their personal Sabbath.  Others take a day off occasionally during the month.  Still others take a day off once a quarter.  The ones who do not rest weekly are short-changing themselves, in my opinion.  They’re not actually resting on a sustainable basis.

         Remember that you are not indispensable.  If your congregation collapses because you take a Sabbath’s rest, then you are not leading a church.  You are leading something else completely.  And that something else will not fulfill the call God has placed on your life, because it will demand you take a road that only leads to self-destruction.

         As Jethro might have said to his son-in-law Moses—don’t you have anyone who is wise enough to help you take care of business if you’re not there for one day a week?  Moses needed some relief.  Jesus and the disciples needed some relief.  You need some relief, too.

         Allow me to encourage you to delegate some authority to your leaders while you take a day of rest for your own spiritual, emotional, mental and physical health.  Fight the urge to call them to see if they need you.  Actually set your phone aside.  Observe a Sabbath weekly.  Take a load off your shoulders for a day, and your feet, too.  Take a break!

    Sincerely,

    A Small Church Pastor

  • Letter #32 (Unity–3)

    Dear Small Church Pastor,

         The following is a list of various scriptures that deal with the topic of unity.  I encourage you to read them, including the contextual verses around them.  Unity—Ps 133:1, John 17:23, Ephesians 4:3 & 13 (NLT); Unified—Ezra 3:1, Nehemiah 8:1 (NLT); In One Accord–Acts 1:14; 2:1; 2:46; 4:24; 5:12 (NLT); (According to my concordance, there are 34 verses I did not list that come from the KJSV and the NLT that list the word unite/united.)

         In this third letter concerning unity, allow me to give you a “case study” of what can happen when unity exists from my experience as a small church pastor.  Our congregation had mentioned we should work on something to connect with the young people in our community who were related to our attenders or lived in our general area.  As we prayed and sought guidance from God on how to go about doing this, the idea of creating a safe place for young people to gather on a regular basis was brought up and discussed. 

         The discussions led to a major project that we decided to call The Landing.  The project was the creation of a large youth shelter with a platform on one end for various events, supplemented by a fire pit and sports areas.  The congregation began working on the project “in one accord.”  Through their enthusiasm, dedication and hard work that was covered in prayer, what we refer to as miracles began to occur.

         We had to clear over an acre of thick woods to create the building site.  One of our members worked for an underground utilities company.  The company donated the use of the equipment we needed to clear the woods and prepare the ground.

         The poles for the structure were donated by an individual.  We purchased the trusses, and when it came time for them to be set in place, a commercial contractor brought his crew two consecutive weekends to set them without cost to us.  (Four-man crew for 20 hours of labor) 

         The lathing for the trusses was donated by way of a developer who gave us over 120–2”x12”x14’ planks that were considered scrap concrete form boards.  A local man who owned a sawmill cut enough of the lumber to make the lathing (at no cost). 

         The structure was ready for roofing.  A large congregation in our area heard what we were doing and bought the metal for the roof.  A local resident who installs roofing came to direct and work with us to install the metal.

         It was time to build the platform.  We had enough planks left to create a 13’x40’ platform, but we needed to raise it off the ground.  I got word that a mason I know was cleaning around a house he used to store various building materials and I contacted him.  He donated 150 lightweight 8”x8”x24” blocks, which were more than enough to build the foundation for the platform.

         Some of the leftover blocks became the walls for the fire pit.

         We hired a local electrical contractor to install power so we could put up lights and outlets for night-time activities.  The power pole was donated by the same person who donated the shelter poles.

         Poles for creating a volleyball court were donated.  A moveable standard basketball goal was donated.  A set of small goals for children was donated.  A ski-ball table was donated.  A foosball table was donated.  A child sized billiard table was donated.  We bought an air-hockey table and built a sturdy ping pong table.

         This whole process took a little over 2 years of prayer, discussions, phone calls, decisions, work, scraped knuckles, sweat, hope and dependence on God to move for us, to provide for us, to keep us on track and to anoint our efforts.  God did His part for that small congregation that had to rely on Him to achieve what we were doing together, what we were united about, what we prayed about in one accord.

         Take another look at those scriptures in the beginning of this letter, especially the ones in the book of Acts.  Unity creates miracles.

    Sincerely,

    A Small Church Pastor

  • Letter #31 (Unity–2)

    Dear Small Church Pastor,

         In the last letter I discussed one of the challenges that will need to be overcome in order for a congregation to become cohesive.  Allow me to invest this letter in presenting a technique I found useful more than once in my ministry.  That technique involves focusing on identifying everything possible that the members of a congregation have in common.

         Despite their differences, such as spiritual gifts, occupations or food preferences, most congregants have many similarities.  Diligently seek those similarities. 

         Most people who attend a worship service enjoy music, regardless of the style.  Talk to them about what types of music they enjoy and incorporate these into your music.  Most of them do want to experience the presence of God individually and corporately.  Ask them how they have experienced God’s presence in the past and give opportunity for the Holy Spirit to move in them while they worship.  Most want the pastor to help them walk closer to Jesus.  Find out what types of teachings and sermons they feel will help them to be more like Jesus and be diverse and creative in how you minister the Word of God to them.  You should be able to find agreement among them when identifying and celebrating these commonalities in worship.   Start with these if you need to as you seek to discover other ways your attenders are already alike.

         Remember that your attenders are people.  They will not only experience things together dealing with spiritual topics.  They also experience life in the physical, mental and emotional realms.  Look for similarities there, too. 

         What types of occupations do they have?  What are their hobbies?  Where do they go for recreation?  Which restaurant is their first choice when they go out to eat?  If they have children or grandchildren, where do they attend school?  In which extra-curricular activities do the younger family members participate?  Do they enjoy reading novels or watching movies?  Are they involved in community affairs?  What’s their favorite sports team, if they are interested in sports?

         Finding similarities on which to focus as you seek to develop strong unity in your congregation will give you information that should help guide your efforts.  There will always be differences of opinion in any congregation.  However, if you can show people how they are more alike than different, your goal of unity will not be as distant as you might think.  When people realize they do have things in common with those who may differ with their opinion, you can use that realization to foster unity.

         An example from my own life: While growing up, I attended a small country church house that was populated with folks from several denominations.  The attenders knew they did not agree on every single doctrinal point in Christianity.  But they had come to a conclusion which, as best as I can determine, is still in force today in that congregation.  They have agreed to disagree without allowing animosity to develop. 

         When they disagree on something, they communicate their opinions, they choose to make compromises when possible, they vote or seek consensus, and then they move on as a congregation.  If they vote on some issue, they all choose to back the results of the vote.  They have chosen to maintain their unity by loving each other.

         Continue praying.  Continue seeking guidance from the Holy Spirit.  Continue teaching about unity that is powered by the love of God.  Continue encouraging unity in your people.  Unity is achievable.

    Sincerely,

     A Small Church Pastor

  • Letter # 30–Unity (1)

    Dear Small Church Pastor,

         Unity is an elusive characteristic that we are told to strive to achieve.  We are told it is good when brothers can dwell in unity.  We should pray for unity.  We should seek it diligently.  We should encourage it.  But just how can we do this? 

         How can we develop unity within our congregation when there are personality clashes?  How do we achieve unity when the children of our leaders argue while in Children’s Church?  How do we unite if there are differences of opinion about how to move out of our four walls and into our community?

         To be honest, as far as I can determine, there are no “one size fits all” solutions to this challenge of creating unity.  There are some actions we can take, though, which will aid in the development of unity among our members.  Allow me to address one of these actions in this letter.

         A congregation that has agreed on a common goal and a plan to achieve that goal will usually develop a spirit of unity as the members do their part in working the plan.  In order to create that goal and its plan, there must be open and honest communication about the various possible goals and ways to achieve those goals.  All ideas presented must be accepted at face value and given the opportunity to be discussed and evaluated.  (Run it up the pole, brainstorm, dump the can and see what falls out, etc.)  Again, open communication and consideration is a must at this point.

         If you can get your congregation/leaders/committee to participate in that first phase of creating a common goal and a plan to achieve that goal, the hardest hurdle to unity is being overcome, and you will begin to see progress in creating the unity needed to achieve that common goal.

         But what do you do if you can’t get them to agree on a common goal and action plan?  If that’s the case, experience says you have a spiritual problem that is going to have to be faced and defeated before unity will arise in your people.  If you realize a small faction, a larger group, or even all the people are refusing to cooperate with others, there is some deception from the devil that has taken hold of minds and has convinced them they should not or cannot cooperate with each other.

         If this occurs, you will have to deal with the situation spiritually first before anything physical can be accomplished.  You will have to fast, pray, teach Biblical doctrine, counsel, encourage, face and conquer spiritual opposition, seek the Holy Spirit’s anointing and guidance and demonstrate love to your people every chance you get as you focus their attention on Jesus.  Then do that again.  And again.  And again.

         Dale Carnegie in the 20th century and Samuel Butler much earlier in the 17th century stated that a man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still.  In order to change a person’s opinion, the heart (the will) must change first.  If you can do your part as pastor to open truth to the people so the Holy Spirit can change hearts that are determined not to cooperate, that is all you can do.  It is the influence of the Holy Spirit spreading the love of God into hearts that can change them.  You can’t do that. 

         You can’t force the changes needed for unity to exist.  You can provide the opportunity for the changes to occur, but you cannot decide for someone else that they will change.  You face this every time you give an altar call for people to respond to the good news about Jesus.  You can tell them about Jesus and forgiveness, but you can’t make them choose to repent and seek forgiveness.  The same thing holds true for creating unity.  You can create opportunities for unity to be developed, but you cannot develop it in a heart.  God has to do that.

         If you will persist in doing your part and rely on God to do His, then you should be able to see unity begin to develop in your congregation.  When you begin to see the cooperation and mutual love that can exist in a congregation that is unified, all those prayers and seeking God will be rewarded as God’s presence envelopes all your people do together. 

         I’ve already written enough for you to pray about for now.  Remember lasting changes will occur slowly or quickly depending on the Holy Spirit’s presence and the people’s willingness to yield to that Spirit.  (I speak from experience here.)  We’ll cover more about unity in the next letter.

    Sincerely,

    A Small Church Pastor

  • Letter #29–Dare to Be Different

    Dear Small Church Pastor,

         Have you noticed that many people seem to dress alike when they go to the same places regularly?  Or when they belong to a specialized group?  Or at work?  Or if they belong to a particular clique or social circle? 

         There exists in our societies today that thing called peer pressure.  We tend to succumb to that pressure when it comes to our clothes.  But something that disturbs me when it comes to peer pressure is that we also tend to succumb to that pressure when it comes to our calling as pastors.  We subconsciously, or maybe even consciously, attempt to talk, act and even think like other pastors we know.

         We find ourselves doing what other pastors are doing.  We find ourselves preaching similar sermons and leading our congregations in similar ways.  We might even realize one day that we are guiding our people to be just like other congregations in our areas without making sure from our source that we should be leading them in that direction.  (Remember Letter #27?)

         There’s something I discovered while pastoring—every congregation is different.  They may have similar heritages in a general geographic area or ethnic background, but they will be different.  They’ll have different individual needs and those needs will require different approaches.  They’ll have special circumstances and special emergencies and special, different, physical, mental, emotional and spiritual fears, pressures, and uncertainties.

         They also have a multitude of varying dreams and goals and experiences.  They have different abilities, understanding and knowledge.  They have different spiritual gifts and varying discernment about life and its demands.

         Because your congregation will be different, you need to be different, too.  Earnestly seek guidance from God on how to lead your individual group of people.  Pray for discernment on how to address their special needs.  Seek to establish strong relationships with them and learn as much as you can about those little nuances in their voices and body language that speak volumes that the words don’t say when they talk to you. 

         They need you to be different.  They need you to lead them to their own solutions, not someone else’s.  They need you to be their pastor to their congregation, not another group down the road.

         For these reasons, I encourage you to be different.  Fast, pray, read your Word and spend time alone with your source in order to discover who you need to be for God’s glory.  Don’t try to do what other pastors do unless the Holy Spirit leads you in that direction.  Go in the direction your sheep need.

         Additionally, I challenge you to dare to be different because your own ministry is not going to be just like everyone else’s ministry.  I dare you to be different when it comes to how much you fast, pray, study and preach the messages the Holy Spirit directs you to prepare.  I dare you to not do what every other church in your area is doing.

         Dare to be different about who is called to speak at your congregation’s homecoming.  Dare to be different about the structure of your worship services.  Dare to be different when it comes to how many times a year you have a missions speaker.  Dare to be different as you plan out next year’s emphasis.  Dare to stop maintaining the status quo.

         Abram was different and left his father and family behind.  Joshua didn’t use military strategy against Jericho; he used God strategy.  David demonstrated a different kind of faith in the God of Israel in order to kill the giant.  Peter dared to speak boldly in the name of Jesus and thousands were saved.  Paul and Silas weren’t normal prisoners; they sang songs of worship in the middle of the night.  These people dared to be different and accomplished the deeds God had set before them. 

         What will God use you to do if you will dare to be different?

    Sincerely,

    A Small Church Pastor

  • Letter #28–Heritage

    Dear Small Church Pastor,

         I had occasion recently to attend a Christmas worship service in the church house where I officiated my first funeral message.  One of my uncles passed, and I was asked by the family to present his eulogy and the funeral message. 

         The building was erected in the late 1800’s.  You can see the footprints and handprints of its builders in the rough-sawn planks that cover the ceiling, walls and floor.  It was the same church house and cemetery where my maternal grandparents were laid to rest, as well as my mother and all her siblings.  Numerous cousins and extended family members either had their funerals there or had been interred in that cemetery.  You could say my family has deep roots in the place. (No pun intended.)

         Sometimes a small church pastor is sent by God to such a location as the one I just described.  As the pastor begins ministry in that congregation, the heritage of the congregation can be a blessing and a curse at the same time.  Many congregations have great histories.  Revivals of the past, record missions offerings and long-established spiritual traditions all reflect the heritages of many small congregations.  However, the memories of those past events can become a two-sided coin that impedes the progress of a congregation’s spiritual growth.  The memories can become the focus of the people, who long to see those memories come to life again.  And their focus on the past can slow their movement into the future.

         A small church pastor should tread patiently and carefully when it comes to the heritage of a congregation.  Trying to deal with any aspect of a congregation’s heritage that may be hindering their spiritual growth is tricky business that requires much prayer and discernment from God.

         The pastor should learn as much as possible about the history and traditions that exist in a congregation.  Some things will be pleasant memories that are casually discussed and some things will be so ingrained in the congregation that they are considered as absolutes to their operation and will be expected to be held in extremely high regard, almost to the point of idolatry.

          Examples: A congregation in a neighboring county accepted the use of a computer and projector for singing without much opposition because they enjoyed being able to worship without having to hold a book when they wanted to clap along with a song or raise their hands as they worshipped.   I also know of a congregation that would wait until a particular member would quietly raise a hand and start to weep before anyone else would express any reaction to an inspiring sermon.  Their comments about this included a statement that the individual knew when God’s spirit was moving and no one wanted to “get ahead of that person” during worship.

         Once the pastor has learned about the history and traditions, prayerfully consider what has been learned to determine if anything is standing in the way of the congregation getting closer to following Jesus.  If there is anything, then slowly, graciously and lovingly broach the subject after asking the leadership to help you pray about something.  Remember to bathe every decision in prayer, seeking the guidance and timing of the Holy Spirit when dealing with anything such as this.  As with any change, speak to your leadership before speaking to the general congregation.  Be sure the leaders are willing to make any adaption to a tradition.

         Keep in mind that those folks who are the backbone of the congregation have much time, money and effort in the history of the congregation.  They are the ones who probably did the cooking, painting, sweeping, repairing, singing, praying and witnessing that were integral parts of any heritage they have.  And if they were not the ones, their parents and grandparents were.  They have family ties to their past, in all likelihood.  Remember how thick blood is.

         Those parts of the heritage that are blessings and points of encouragement should be celebrated when the occasion arises.  You might remind the current members how their ancestors would pray earnestly for revival and encourage them to do the same.  You could point out how growth in numbers usually came after those prayers were coupled with community-wide evangelistic outreaches that they could do themselves.  Honestly admit to the people when the traditions are helpful and point out how they bring people closer to Jesus and encourage them in their faith.

         You might have a heritage, with its traditions, in your own family.  Remember how much that means to you.  A congregation feels the same way about its heritage and traditions.  The local congregation’s past can be a source of inspiration and encouragement for your people.  Seek God’s guidance and anointing as you approach the reality of having to patiently deal with the good side and the unfortunate side of any local heritage.  As I mentioned in Letter #27, remember your source, especially when you deal with a congregation’s heritage.

    Sincerely,

    A Small Church Pastor