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  • Letter #49 (First Impressions–2)

    Dear Small Church,

         In Letter #48 I introduced the idea of creating a first impression based on the facility and general atmosphere we want to create for a first-time visitor.  This letter goes into the actual worship service and how it can impact the first impression. 

         We want visitors to return and become regular attenders and, hopefully, integral parts of our ministry as we endeavor to fulfill our calling as a group of Christ’s disciples.  Therefore, we must determine a few things about the service that will influence their first, second or third impressions of our congregation and ministry. 

         Our primary questions deal with why we attend worship services in the first place.  Are we attending as participants to give praise and honor to God, to minister to each other and to receive ministry from the body of Christ?  Or are we attending as spectators to be encouraged through religious entertainment and an uplifting message from a motivational speaker called a pastor?  If a visitor attends for the first question’s answers, he/she will be disappointed if he/she experiences the answers to the second question.  The service must be geared to fulfill the answers to the first question, not the second one.

         According to information from Gallup polls and Barna Research Group trends, people who attend worship services are seeking a real encounter with God.  They want to experience God’s presence in their lives.  They want to find out if God truly cares about them and can be active in their affairs.  Essentially, people are looking for a spiritual connection they feel is missing in their lives, and they have decided to go to a worship service to see if that connection can be found there. 

         That being said, we must prayerfully (Notice that word “Prayerfully”) approach how a service flows, what is included in a worship service, and what our intended outcome is for the ending portion of the service.  If we have no spiritual goal for why we are doing what we are doing, if we do not have a direction of worship and outcome expected for the culmination of the service, we will not arrive at the end of the service with any appreciable positive spiritual results.  (Please understand the Holy Spirit can override our lack of spiritual preparations and create a great spiritual experience for visitors in spite of our inadequacies and poor choices.  But you don’t need to expect Him to do that on a regular basis.)

         Allow me to caution you here—since you are advertising your worship service schedules, please be prepared for the services when they occur.  Worship involves important aspects of the Christian life.  To throw something together at the last minute without praying or seeking God’s guidance and anointing is perpetuating a travesty on the disciples who gather for worship.  I have to admit I have been guilty of that travesty, and the outcome was not what it could have been had everyone involved in the service had come prepared for their part in the overall experience. 

         As you decide on what needs to be included in the service, remember that worship involves much more than just singing.  Offering prayers, supplications and intercessions to God is involved.  Waiting on God to speak to hearts is involved.  Generosity in tithing and giving offerings is involved.  Hearing the Word of God read and explained in sermons is involved.  Giving testimonies to God’s working in a life is involved.  Encouraging each other is involved.  Giving thanks to God is involved.  Sometimes eating together is involved.  Attending as participants, not just spectators, in worship is involved.  These concepts are just the tip of the iceberg that makes up worship.

         Allow me to share a story about one area of worship from a missionary I know.  He serves in a region where Christian voices are often silenced through social pressure, traditions, laws and even violence.  His ministry involves radio and TV programs that are produced and aired over stations that almost exclusively promote that area’s predominate religion.  However, he never mentions that religion in his broadcasts.  He only talks about Jesus and what Jesus can do in a life that is dedicated to His teachings.  He does not condemn, slander or otherwise denigrate the dominant religion.  His ministry is quite successful and reaches several million listeners and viewers weekly.

         Why the story?  We all have varying preferences when it comes to dress codes, music styles, scriptural translations, building decorations, service times and lengths, traditional activities and any number of other topics that are revealed through our preferences.  If all we do is condemn someone who has different preferences while we are supposed to be involved in worship, we are probably going to make a negative first impression on people. 

         Biblical doctrines speak for themselves and must remain constant in our worship services.  Those are not negotiable.   Preferences, on the other hand, can change over time.  Be sure your worship services focus on the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit and not on preferences.

         Keep in mind that a worship service is an opportunity for someone to repent of sins and ask for forgiveness.  It is an opportunity for someone to be born again spiritually.  Make every effort to give that someone the chance to see Jesus, the Father and the Holy Spirit working in Christ’s church, for His people and through His people.  If you do that, the worship experience will have fulfilled its purpose.

         A worship service that directs visitors to experiencing God in the fullness of His glory and power will make a good first impression.  Pray that that is your church’s first impression on visitors.

    Sincerely,

    A Small Church Pastor

  • Letter #23–Changing Others–1

    Dear Small Church Pastor,

         This letter will begin a mini-series on the topic of changing others. 

         The very first thing you need to understand is that YOU cannot change anyone.  You can lead them, advise them and make suggestions to them, but you cannot make the decisions that must be made in order for a change to occur in anyone, especially not in a whole congregation of people.  Only the Holy Spirit can bring in the changes that will help your people become more like Jesus.  Remember who is in control and who is building the church Jesus established so long ago.

         That being said–

         When it comes to changing others, after we start working on changing ourselves, there are numerous issues that must be addressed before any changes in a congregation can occur.  Do the people see a need for change?  Are they willing to make any changes?  Are they completely controlled by their routines and comfort zones?  How open-minded are they when it comes to temporary changes as opposed to permanent changes?  I could go on, but you get the idea.

         Then there are the unseen taboos that exist that are never mentioned until the pastor (that would be you) suggests a change, even if the change is for a few days.  Example: I once wanted to cover a painting, which was located on the back wall of the platform, with a large drape for a couple of weeks during a special sermon series.  When I mentioned the idea to the people, I was immediately reprimanded for wanting to cover a painting that had been donated by one of the “founding fathers” of the church.  The period of a few days was immaterial.  I wanted to cover a “sacred cow” in the minds of some of the people.  Sacred cows fall under the list of taboos.

         Back to the matter of changing others–Any time a pastor is faced with the understanding that a change needs to be made, there are some questions that need to be asked.  Is the change necessary for the spiritual development of the congregation, or is this a change motivated by the latest trends in congregational structure and operation that are being instituted in other locations?  Example: About fifteen or twenty years ago, a local pastor set up a week-long revival at his church and felt led by the Holy Spirit to invite different speakers for each night of the revival.  The revival was a glowing success.  The next pastor down the road decided to do the same and held a revival with different speakers.  The next pastor farther down the road did just like the others were doing and had several speakers at his annual revival.

         As I watched what was happening, I realized the first pastor had followed the direction of the Holy Spirit and had been rewarded with a great outreach to his community.  It appeared to me that the others had looked at what he had done and decided that God was now moving by having revivals with several speakers.  I’m not judging the others for their decisions.  I am merely stating a pattern that I saw developing during each repetition of the original revival.  Many churches still follow that pattern in our area years later.

         Getting back to the question, again—do you feel that the change will help your congregation grow spiritually?  If the answer is “no,” then ask yourself why you want to make the change.  Remember, your motivations will have a definite impact on your congregation and its future.  If the answer is “yes,” ask yourself what would be the best way to make the change.  Remember, as their pastor, you should always seek what is best for the congregation as the Holy Spirit directs your steps.

         Here are some suggestions when you believe a change will help your congregation grow in their relationships with Jesus:

         Pray, pray and then pray some more before introducing the idea of any change to the structure or operation of the church.  Then ask the congregation to pray with you as you seek the Lord’s guidance about the future.

         Informally bring up the change in conversations with various members of the congregation beginning with your leaders.  Ask them “How do you feel about….” types of questions and really listen to their answers.

         Be patient.  If you’re going to move the piano, do it one inch at a time.  Changes that are lasting should occur in small increments whenever possible.  People need time to adjust themselves to new things, no matter how small the changes are.

         Never make a change for the sake of change.  Always have a definite goal in mind, and be sure the goal will benefit your people in the long run.

         As led by the Holy Spirit, minister to your people about the control routines and comfort zones have over everyone’s lives and how to overcome that control through God’s help and direction.  Remember to use examples from your own life and from scripture when you do this.  Don’t try to point out their routines and comfort zones to them.  Rely on the Holy Spirit to do that.

         There is much more to discuss on this topic of changing others through God’s guidance.  We’ll address other things in the next letter.  You already have enough in this one to ponder and pray about as you lead your people into necessary changes.

    Sincerely,

    A Small Church Pastor